I recently had the pleasure of taking part in the pilot of Relume’s mindfulness program. This involved two weekend retreats, separated by ten weeks of practice, reading and conversation.
The Elevator Pitch
The pilot provided a program of learning focused on non faith-based meditation which helped participants (a) cope more effectively with the lifestyle they find themselves in (b) improve the quality of interaction with others and (c) understand their underlying, and sometimes deeply hidden, motivations. This is my description of what “it would say on the tin” if it was made by Ronseal.
The build-up
As I drove off to the wilds of the jurassic coast for the first retreat I felt a mixture of thrill and dread as I started to realise the enormous levels of my ignorance. I had a map of the location, the memory of having met a couple of the participants and a vague idea that “mindfulness” was something to do with mediation. This lack of prior knowledge and preparation is fairly typical of me as a consumer of films, books, food and life-changing experiential learning programs. (If you are a client of mine I should stress that this trait does not apply to my professional practice researched and prepared!!)…back to the plot.
The weekend retreats
That first weekend was largely about practicing how to meditate mindfully and learning all about the brain-science as well as the applicability and benefits of the practice. It was an amazingly powerful, enlightening, emotional, restful, inspiring and vegatarian experience.
The second weekend retreat focused on deepening the practice, the learning and the applicability. It was also about closing the pilot. I was surprised to find the second weekend even more of a powerful, enlightening, emotional, restful, inspiring and vegatarian experience than the first weekend.
The practice
Learning to meditate mindfully is called ‘practice’ because that’s what it is. It took me half of the pilot to realise that “practice” does not “make perfect”. It is not about putting in an effort to get an outcome and it is not about improving something although that can happen. It is much more about the present tense than the future tense. When I ’sit’ (another word for practice) it feels very muuch about the here and now rather than some future state. As you can tell it is not easy to describe.
The Teacher
One thing that is easy to describe is impact the pilot’s teacher had on me. Claire Breeze is a gifted coach, teacher and facilitator. More than that Claire embodies what the pilot was about. She brought life, humanity and love to “the process”. I cannot think of another person I have met who has inspired me as much as Claire; and her “professional” talents were matched only by her warmth and care.
The Outcome
Looking back it has surprised me how such a simple concept - sitting quietly for 20 minutes a day - can bring about such a powerful learning experience. I am not ready to publish all of this learning in my blog but it ranges from small, seemingly incidental, items to quite profound impacts.
More importantly the pilot woke me up to myself in a way I did not expect. I have always considered myself to be relatively self-aware but the pilot took that much further.
As you can probably tell I have gone from being an ignorant, neutral agnostic to a raving advocate in ten short weeks. It goes without saying that, when Relume launch their mindfulness program in earnest, I would thoroughly recommend you consider it.

